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The most harmful phrase to young people in this world is "Your job is unstable." What does stable mean? Earning a few thousand a month, no raise in ten years, life with no prospects— is that what stability means? Many high-income industries are indeed unstable; the industry might disappear in five or six years, the company might be gone, the trend might pass, but so what? Others earn in one year what you make in five, and the resources, knowledge, connections, and cash flow accumulated over five years are on a completely different level. What’s truly scary is never job instability itself, but that you give up growth speed, earning ability, and imagination for the future too early in the name of so-called stability. Of course, high income doesn’t necessarily mean true security either. If a person only knows how to work hard to make money but lacks the ability to save, skills, and fallback options, once they stop, they will also fall into the abyss. So true stability isn’t what the company gives you, but that no matter how the industry changes, you still have the ability to make money again.

Browsing Xianyu too much has actually decreased my material desires. I deeply feel that "it's easy for money to turn into things," but "it's hard for things to be converted back into money." The items you impulsively bought thinking they were treasures, no matter how much you discount them, no one wants them. ​​​

What does it mean when it says girls must resist the temptation to go downward? It doesn't mean you should look for someone with worse conditions than you. Rather, it refers to those voices telling you: "Girls don't need to work so hard," "Marrying well is more important than working hard," "You just need to be pretty," "No one likes a woman who's too strong," "Just find a man who can support you." The scariest part of these words is not that they make girls dependent on men. It's that they slowly take away a person's: judgment, survival skills, financial independence, mental independence, and perception of the world. In the end, they turn a woman's life into a kind of "competitive job application." When young, competing on appearance; as age increases, fearing aging, fearing losing value, fearing being replaced. This leads to growing anxiety, less and less security, and a stronger desire to control relationships. Because when a person's value is long-term built on "being chosen," it's very hard for her to truly own her life. Don't sell the initiative of your life cheaply to a seemingly easy life narrative. True upward movement is not about depending on someone. It is about: during your youngest, most vibrant years, continuing to grow, continuing to understand the world, and continuously building your own abilities and spirit.

Many high-potential people share a common trait when they are young: instability, nonconformity, unsuitability for the system, difficulty in quick realization, and only finding their true direction late. Such people often look like "failures" in their twenties. But many who truly have long-term momentum are not assembly-line talents. The real danger is never the temporary lack of results. It is: self-denial before true maturity. Quitting before momentum forms. Collapsing before long-term accumulation generates compounding. Many people's lives are not lost to others but to the panic of "Am I already too late?" The greatest risk in life is not starting late. It is believing "I can't do it" before your own momentum has formed. Because: human growth curves are not linear.

If you want to increase your income, record every transaction, every incoming payment, every action that truly brings results. If you want to expand your growth, record what you learned each day, what you produced, and where you got stuck. If you want to enhance your self-discipline, record what time you get up, when you start working, and when you get distracted. If you want to improve your execution, record every instance of procrastination, when it happened, and why. If you want to expand your influence, record what content is shared, which opinions are remembered, and which emotions most easily resonate. If you want to broaden your cognition, record those judgments that are continuously validated by reality. If you want to stabilize your emotions, record why you feel anxious, why you get angry, and why you lose control at critical moments. Recording is not just leaving traces; recording is calibration. Recording is not about moving yourself emotionally; recording is about correcting yourself. Recording is not a mere log; recording is about capturing the key variables that truly determine outcomes. What you continuously record is where your attention flows. What you focus on long-term is what your life results will amplify. A life without recording relies entirely on feelings. When feeling good, you push hard; when feeling bad, you completely give up. But once you start recording, people gradually move from chaos to clarity, from losing control to gaining control, from relying on passion to relying on systems. Because everything recorded will be seen. Everything seen will be corrected. Everything repeatedly corrected will eventually become reality.

Why are poor people more prone to colorectal cancer than the rich? It's not genes, not luck, it's the lunchbox. Construction workers, late-night delivery riders. Plastic bags holding bowls of hot soup, disposable lunchboxes microwaved briefly, mineral water bottles refilled with hot water and drunk repeatedly. Research from Shanghai Jiao Tong University clearly states: PET material accounts for 40.8% of microplastics detected in intestinal tumors. What is PET? It's the bottle of mineral water costing two yuan right at your hand. ​​​

"What is the most valuable advice you've ever heard in your life?" One of the answers that received over 8,000 likes was: "A person's value does not depend on how hard you work, but on how hard you are to replace." The general idea is that effort is important, but what truly determines your worth is scarcity. The harder it is to replace a person, the stronger their bargaining power; the easier it is to replace someone, the harder it is to get high returns no matter how hard they work.

Always remember It's not because you fall that someone will help you up; It's not because you're in trouble that someone will help you; It's not because you're short of money that someone will give you some; It's not because you're wronged that someone will care for you; You have to walk the path yourself, endure the hardships yourself, Earn the money yourself, and bear the responsibilities yourself, Relying on yourself is always your greatest confidence, If you rely on others, at most you can only rely on them for a while, Only by relying on yourself can you rely on yourself for a lifetime. ​​​

The first lesson in society: don't trust anyone; trust human nature, not their words. The second lesson in society: don't help anyone; before helping, make them pay a price, even if it's just a plea. The third lesson in society: don't sympathize with anyone; you are not Buddha, you can't save those who kneel and refuse to leave. ​​​

The most frightening thing for a family is not temporarily having no money, but that every generation is forced to start from scratch. Parents work hard all their lives, overexerting their bodies and exhausting their youth, yet can only leave behind meager savings and fatigue; when the children grow up, they repeat the same life trajectory, struggling from the bottom again, anxious and pressured by life. Many people think poverty is just a lack of money, but what’s even harder to break is the cycle of "intergenerational reset." Except for physical labor and basic skills, almost nothing is truly accumulated or passed down. Because what really determines how far a family can go is never just the numbers in the bank account, but cognition, vision, health, connections, habits, education, and family values. A life spent only burying oneself in making money without understanding long-term accumulation is like a single-player game that can’t be saved—one generation ends, and everything resets; while families that truly achieve social mobility often do the same thing: the parents focus on accumulating experience, broadening cognition, and gathering resources, while the children stand on a higher starting point to move forward, allowing the family to slowly form compound interest like a snowball. Ordinary people don’t necessarily need to get rich overnight, but at least they should start with their own generation to end the cycle of "starting from scratch every generation." Because the meaning of our hard struggle is not only to live decently ourselves but also to ensure the next generation doesn’t have to repeat the hardships and detours we have endured.